I sit in public places with a typewriter on a cardboard box with a sign that says "POEMS - Your Topic Your Price." So most of what are here are spontaneous first and final drafts. Most of them are "bad," but hey. Whatever. Also I say "and now you have the option of holding the poem like this, slightly below your eyes and having me take a photo to put on my website," so that's how they get here. I also write better than bad poems (maybe), and short stories.
For unattached children the process of professional coaching and specific daily treatment interventions may take five to seven years to show major results. This is a far cry from the claims of a variety of quick attachment approaches. To those who shudder at seven years of treatment, they may do well to ask how long it takes a healthy attached child to learn responsibility and to develop an informed functioning conscience. It takes a human being many years to be physically self-sufficient, why would anyone be surprised that it would take equally long to be socially and morally well developed. It may not take years of individual art therapy, play therapy or even professional coaching in family therapy, but it will take years for healthy attachment patterns to form in the day-to-day environment the child is in, if initial attachment was disrupted, partially developed, or absent entirely.
Although this is supposed to be a poetry blog I may post more psychology related information because I entered grad school to become a psychotherapist two weeks ago and it’s on my mind more than usual now. Also I may be less inspired to do my poetry thing as a result because I’m pretty busy.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is of particular interest to me and I think this woman does a very good job describing what it is. Bare in mind that personality disorders are probably culturally constructed to some degree, but that the people who experience the symptom clusters (think patterns of thought, emotion, behavior) are experiencing real suffering and are in need of real relief. The quiet radical in me (used to be louder) says that larger scale and more sustainable relief would come from profound cultural/political changes (ie, socialism?) but that’s another conversation. I think it’s important for folks to know about patterns of suffering like this one. The experience of having BPD has been described as “being an emotional burn victim.”